Reflections on the Break Up



Watched the movie the Break Up yesterday. The plot seems familar. Boy meets girl, they fall in love then become a couple. Fast forward into the future and the lovey dovey pair ends up hating the guts of each other. He hates the way she bosses him and refuses to let him have a pool table in the house. She cant stand the way he cant pick matching clothes and wouldn't do the dishes for her. So she throws him the ultimum, lets break up.

But they both don't wanna break up. They just want the other party to want to do things for them, like want to buy flowers for her even though she says she doesn't like flowers. Or just want to do the dishes without really doing them. But no, they prefer to keep each other guessing what they expect from the other and get mad when the other party is well plain clueless or just non-chalent about the matter.

Sounds familar?

In fact, I have been guilty of it myself. And for some strange reason Alexis kept defending the male lead by saying that the girl is at fault ...I think he's hinting at something. But hasn't he even learnt from the show, it's no good hinting. Sometimes it's best to say it as it is. Why get into needless quarrels and fights when we can communicate? And in my defence, I say guys are usually the ones who run the other way when they hear their lady go, Wanna talk? I should know... I'm married to a man who's not much of a talker. But we're learning... and we can only be more accepting of each other by communicating our expectations and not play mind games or guessing games. I like games, but am not game for such games.