How deep is your love?

It's easy to say I love you, but it's not that easy to live out that love you have for those you love all the time.



An 80 year old man was sitting on the sofa in his house along with his 45 years old highly educated son. Suddenly a crow perched on their window.

The Father asked his Son, "What is this?"

The Son replied "It is a crow".

After a few minutes, the Father asked his Son the 2nd time, "What is this?"

The Son said "Father, I have just now told you "It's a crow".

After a little while, the old Father again asked his Son the 3rd time, what is this?"

At this time, some expression of irritation was felt in the Son's tone when he said to his Father with a rebuff.. "It's a crow, a crow".

A little after, the Father again asked his Son t he 4th time, "What is this?"

This time the Son shouted at his Father, "Why do you keep asking me the same question again and again, although I have told you so many times 'IT IS A CROW'. Are you not able to understand this?"

A little later the Father went to his room and came back with an old tattered diary, which he had maintained since his Son was born. On opening a page, he asked his Son to read that page. When the son read it, the following words were written in the diary :-

"Today my little son aged three was sitting with me on the sofa, when a crow was sitting on the window. My Son asked me 23 times what it was, and I replied to him all 23 times that it was a Crow. I hugged him lovingly each time he asked me the same question again and again for 23 times.

I did not at all feel irritated but I rather felt affection for my innocent child".

While the little child asked him 23 times "What is this", the Father had felt no irritation in replying to the same question all 23 times and when today the Father asked his Son the same question just 4 times, the Son felt irritated and annoyed.

Worlds apart

I'm in a don't feel like sleeping mood. I don't like to sleep much, unlike Alexis whose cure for anything from bodyache to moodiness and even hunger can be "cured" by sleeping. I find excessive sleeping a waste of time, he quite frankly never has enough of it.

I love good food.To him food is for survival, no such thing as good food or bad food and doesn't see the logic of queuing for the famous Mellban crab bee hoon.

I love bright colours in my wardrobe, pink, orange, yellow, green. These colors will blind him and may even make him dizzy.

I love to be around people, they charge me and make me more alive. He prefers to be alone and not be drained by conversations with people.

He's a man of logic and reason, for me, it's what sounds sound and what feels right. Feelings make oevr logic for me. To him, it's a unthinkable.

I like to be outdoors, he prefer to be indoor where the sun doesn't get him.

I like the google box, he likes the internet.

I like eating breakfast... He just wants to sleep in.

I like coffee, he likes milo peng.

I like to have people over in the house, he only sees the mess to be cleared after that.

We're so worlds apart, but yet so in love too :)

Reflections on the Break Up



Watched the movie the Break Up yesterday. The plot seems familar. Boy meets girl, they fall in love then become a couple. Fast forward into the future and the lovey dovey pair ends up hating the guts of each other. He hates the way she bosses him and refuses to let him have a pool table in the house. She cant stand the way he cant pick matching clothes and wouldn't do the dishes for her. So she throws him the ultimum, lets break up.

But they both don't wanna break up. They just want the other party to want to do things for them, like want to buy flowers for her even though she says she doesn't like flowers. Or just want to do the dishes without really doing them. But no, they prefer to keep each other guessing what they expect from the other and get mad when the other party is well plain clueless or just non-chalent about the matter.

Sounds familar?

In fact, I have been guilty of it myself. And for some strange reason Alexis kept defending the male lead by saying that the girl is at fault ...I think he's hinting at something. But hasn't he even learnt from the show, it's no good hinting. Sometimes it's best to say it as it is. Why get into needless quarrels and fights when we can communicate? And in my defence, I say guys are usually the ones who run the other way when they hear their lady go, Wanna talk? I should know... I'm married to a man who's not much of a talker. But we're learning... and we can only be more accepting of each other by communicating our expectations and not play mind games or guessing games. I like games, but am not game for such games.

Was at the young adults retreat over the weekend. We caught the fireworks at the Esplanade and it was well worth squeezing thru the crowd and waiting for it. Only felt that the firworks were too random in no particular order. And at the end, they just fired out whatever pattern they had for the finale. Kindda funny the way they just fired away. Anyway glad to be there to watch it this year with new friends and before we started the program for the night.

The retreat was a good time to bond all the yound adults.. from the really young ones to the not so young ones. Only rant was that the location could be in a better place. Living in a hostel with other international students, and also sheets that look dubious were quite arghh... Livable but.. well I ran off after the 2nd day :P

But it's been a long time since I had the time to sit down with some of them to catch up and just know how they are doing in their lives. A time of connecting, sharing lives and even dreams. I think many of them needed that, the friendships, the support, knowing that there are people who are running the race with them.

I know I need that too...

Time for a workout

My gym membership at Fitness First ended in July. Couldn't keep up with the hefty fees for the membership and anyway the no of visits no longer could justice my continued membership too. not to mention I don't really feel motivated to exercise after the wedding.

But I still know the importance of exercise no matter how unmotivated I am to do it. After all the effects sure are slow... And I'm not quite one to reap from the fruits of my labour in this area that easily. Blame it on the bad genes. The "breathe also will get fat" kinda genes. And it doesn't help that my body is the kinda that needs lotsa cardio to even shed a kg.

So with some determination to get into better shape, I'm off for a jog today. Hopefully I'll have the same determination to keep to it on a more regular basis. By the way, circle is a shape too :P But definitely not the shape I have in min.